I don’t normally consider myself a feminist. I am an independent female with traditional values. I don’t need a guy to open my doors or pull out my chairs or check my oil. I do believe in marriage and waiting with sex until marriage. But I’m not naïve enough to think that there isn’t sex before marriage going on. I’m hesitant on a position on abortion because it’s a beating heart but then how far do you go with laws telling women what they can or can’t do with their bodies. Do we have laws telling men not to get fixed?I really am conflicted about this and not being sarcastic because I hate the killing of a child but when a law is made by a group made of a lot of men about something that could affect me or someone I love, I want a little bit more say. Not the point. All this prefaces that I may talk about woman empowerment today. (This might not all be coherent)
I was watching this thing on YouTube during my break and it was about the women in Harry Potter. I guess when I read the series, I didn’t think of the role of the woman. After watching this video, I see it and I’m glad that J.K. Rowling put so much thought into the role of women and men in her books and showed strong women. I’ve seen several interviews with Rowling and I’m sincerely impressed by her and her outlook on things. I’d totally hang out with her. Do coffee or supper or something. The video, which I linked, is very well done and lots of great thoughts. If you have kids, male or female children, have them watch this video. It gets the message across that women do have a power, but power that you have isn’t necessarily great. Watch it, you’ll understand that. I don’t think that the men in the Harry Potter series aren’t strong and don’t have their own admirable attributes because they are amazing men, it’s just I feel like women in literature sometimes are pushed to the back and aren’t thought about as much. That’s not all books but there’s a lot of books where the woman isn’t thought about or their strength gets taken away. Like yesterday I was talking about Callie and Kayden and how in one book he was kind of the rock and this book she was the rock. Kayden gave Callie her strength back.
There are a lot of books (and in real life as well) where the woman doesn’t have the power or finds her power with a man. Don’t get me wrong, you are stronger with two people than one but figure out your own strength too. If the guy helps you find that strength great but don’t necessarily base that strength on him. Like Callie was strong before she had Kayden but found more strength with him. Both of my grandmas have lost husbands and have carried on and been strong. Heck my dad’s dad, Grandpa Karl, died at 45 with a 10-year-old son and a grandkid on the way and my grandma has made it through just fine. A woman who can’t survive life without a man gets under my skin very quickly. Form your own opinions. You might not always have him. And I know I talk a lot about finding the perfect guy and marrying and pooping out babies but look what I’m doing with my life now. I’m living on my own, I build my own book shelves, check my oil/put air in my tires, take my car in for maintenance, get groceries. I take care of myself which can be seen as a sort of power. Yes, I do break down every once in a while, more than I want to but that isn’t a bad thing. Our cracks and breaks and especially our tears help us build on our strength and shows we have something in us.
They were also talking in the video about how there’s different kind of women with different strengths. There’s the mother strength which is important, there’s the crazy strength like you should be institutionalized. You can’t be every kind of strength. Like I don’t have the strength to be a single mother, I can take care of myself but not more than myself.
Now, I know that this might not all make sense but point is, and this is quite Oprah like (someone notify her that I’m talking like her), find your strength. Find what makes you important. I apologize for having more than one post today and blowing your mind but I started writing this for tomorrow and I couldn’t stop and here we are. I promise I won’t have another post until tomorrow.